Marriage Resources Online

Pre marriage Counseling – Online Resources

admin — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 00:28:59 +0000

New tools for DIY premarital counseling are explained in this video about Marriage 101 – online premarital assessment and instructional videos. This “Digital Duo” of marriage preparation resources are a convenient way for couples to equip themselves for a marriage that will delight and endure for a life-time.

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Marriage Resources Online

admin — Thu, 12 Aug 2010 05:16:59 +0000

More and more we look to the internet for answers using our favorite search engines. So it’s only logical that we would also look online for marriage resources to help us either to prepare for marriage or to give us direction and advice for the marriage challenges we encounter.

For readers who are looking for a good premarital counseling course, a new one has just been released called Marriage 101, that we believe will be a helpful marriage resource for those just preparing for marriage. Check out the premarital counseling link to get more details.

This course is based on Biblical principles and especially addresses the questions and problems of Christian couples. But since those principles are timeless they can also be helpful and useful to anyone who is preparing to get married.

There are many other helpful marriage resources available online and we will be doing reviews and adding them as we are able. So follow us, subscribe to the RSS feed or add us to your Google Reader so you can find out what is available to help you in your marriage.

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What are some weird, but true, stories of marriage proposals?

admin — Wed, 16 May 2012 14:14:47 +0000

Name some true stories of marriage proposals. Also, what are some great websites that have marriage proposal stories besides Youtube?

Resource: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-17628279

i saw on tv this woman who proposed to her boyfriend right before jumping off a plane to skydive! poor guy, he looked a little scared and like he didn’t have time to think but he said yes

Will gay marriage counseling increase, as gay couples grow? Or will people try to stop it?

admin — Wed, 16 May 2012 14:14:14 +0000

If I know what conservatives are thinking, they will try every trick in the book to stop gay marriage even if the President declares it OK. What else will they try?

Obama’s support of gay marriage won’t make much difference – since marriage laws are the purview of individual states. But yes, the homophobe bigots will do anything to interfere with gay civil rights. A number of states want to force women seeking an abortion to undergo invasive ultrasound probes, so if the state governments (mostly men) think they have certain rights over women’s bodies, why shouldn’t they have certain rights over gay people’s minds too?

They could conceivably declare homosexuality a mental illness, and ban psychologists and social workers from treating man/man or woman/woman relationship conflicts, since in their twisted minds, it would be promoting mental illness.

Liberals, if you accept gay marriage, will you also legalize paedophile?

admin — Wed, 14 Mar 2012 21:57:55 +0000

Now the state recognized heterosexual marriage since it will or have potential contributing to procreation, in which family will generate future citizens and taxpayers.

Homosexuality does not and cannot procreate, so why should government wasted resource to legalize gay marriage? If according to liberals, government should concern about ‘feeling’ or ‘recognition’ to gay people, why don’t they legalize:

-Child marriage
-Polygamy
-Human animal marriage
-Self-marriage
-Marriage with virtual characters

So, what prevent liberals not to legalize those kinds of ‘marriage’?

To silly to answer but thanks for the points!

Creating an identity outside of marriage and fatherhood. Need help with steps to achieve this. Help me?

admin — Wed, 14 Mar 2012 21:57:22 +0000

I met my wife when I was 19. Unlike most kids my age, I wasn’t a fully developed person. My mother was a "helicopter mom" who controlled everything I was doing because rather than getting me help for my anxiety issues, she thought being more strict and trying to "break my will" was a more effective way to deal with the problems she had with my behavior. It doesn’t help that my parents are conservative and religious and I grew up liberal and free thinking.

So the entire time I’ve been with my wife, I have been trying to develop my personal identity. The problem with this is I chose to identify too much with my wife and kids and I am still just a hollow shell as a person.

The more I think about the problems I have in my marriage and in my parenting style, the more I realize that the reason things are the way they are is because I have been insincere with who I am as a person. I dedicate and devote too much of my time to my wife and not enough with my kids. This has created a codependency on my wife and I have never established a healthy independence.

I have made a few attempts to develop a personal life, but after having SO much attention on my wife (who constantly called me smothering) go down to limited amounts, my wife does these things to draw me back in to codependency on her. She might start and argument, or guilt trip me (something my parents did to control me), or she might just give me a silent treatment and call me names so I have to apologize for something I didnt do.

I have been asking lots of questions on here for about a year now trying to figure out what to do to start taking care of myself but so far I haven’t received advice that works. I have tried therapy, marriage counseling, adhd research, anxiety reducing herbs, and self help books; none of these things work.

I currently have no job, no friends, no car, no hobbies, and I am not allowed to spend my wife’s money on leisure. We have two kids together, they are grade school aged. Help?
Pearl All the things I said I don’t have in the last paragraph are things that my wife feels is important for me to have. The only thing that really matters to me in that paragraph is the no friends and no hobbies part. Everything else is an inconvenience but I am a stay at home dad so it all comes with the job.

I’m planning on going to college but my wife won’t allow me to go on campus because then she would have to give up her routine (that she’s happy with) and she said that as long as my "changes" don’t affect her life then I am allowed to do whatever I want with my life…

It is very clear that you moved from your mother to your wife, who are identical personalities. You were drawn to your wife because she is just like your mother. Often people feel safe with what they know, so your wife was an easy choice for you. She is domineering and controlling, like your mother was/is.

You need to get out of the house, even if it is for a part time job. You need to pursue some of your interests. Even just volunteering would get you out and give you some independence and to meet people. Take an adult education class in something you are interested in. Just for your enjoyment. Your wife is not going to help you with any of that because she likes keeping you under her thumb and you are too weak to fight her for your freedom. So, you are going to have to begin doing things for yourself and assert yourself. Just do it without her input.

Your wife is going to have a fit when she sees you being your own person but this is the only way to break the cycle and begin living your life. You need to get your behind out of that house and stop depending on your wife for every single thing.

Begin by cooking and doing things on your own and for and with your children. Wake up early on Saturday and make your kids pancakes. Create a dessert night where they get to make their own ice cream sundaes. Take them to the park. Take the initiative and just do it without "permission" from your domineering wife.

You really seem intelligent and I give you tons of credit for isolating your problems and realizing something has to be done. That is half of the battle.

Christian advice_regarding my marriage?

admin — Wed, 14 Mar 2012 21:57:13 +0000

I know im gonna get it!!! But here goes. My husband and I met very young. He was my first love. Out was of course a bit rocky at first we were young and I never had a sound example of what a marriage should be. Seven years in things were bad. Fighting, hitting, depression, chaos, fighting for not being able to live the christian life I wanted to have for me and our son. I made the mistake of confiding in a make friend, though nothing happened, feelings developed. We backed off. My husband later decides to have an affair. Leaves me and my son, asks me for a divorce. I decided after the months of being apart from him to move forward. Met my old friend. Feelings developed again. Seven months later my husband gets dumped, he calls me to work things out. reluctantly I said yes because I wanted to do it for our son to have a normal life. Perhaps its the christian thing to do. But im so unhappy. I despise my decision. I miss the other guy…and my soul is simply exhausted. Please some guidance????

I know that as a Christian woman, you feel obligated to be self-sacrificial for the sake of your child, but the fact of the matter is, your husband broke his vow to God and to you. No good can come out of "staying together for the kids". They know. They sense that you’re not the same anymore. To be a strong Christian woman and admit that the marriage is failing will be hard for your child, but they will be stronger and respect you more for it in the long run.

If he didn’t realize that he wanted to reconcile your marriage until after he got dumped by his mistress, then he is a co-habitor. He needs to be with someone. As hard as it is to hear, that’s not about wanting to be a family. That’s him not wanting to be alone and suffer from the choices he made. And if he ever abused you, that will never change.
Stay strong. Pray every day. Pray every hour if you have to. But don’t suffer silently rather than take the hard road.

Since I can’t marry in my state, shouldn’t the government pay for me to move to where gay marriage is allowed?

admin — Sun, 26 Feb 2012 08:29:39 +0000

It’s not fair. Straight people can marry right now in any state, while I have to wait for gay marriage to become legal.

Plus, I don’t have the time, money, nor resources to move.

Uh, the government doesn’t have the money. A little tardy to the party, aren’t we??

Is no passion a reason to leave a marriage?

admin — Sun, 26 Feb 2012 08:29:18 +0000

I’ve been together with my husband for 10yrs. I met him when I was 19yrs old and we have since had 2 great kids (boys;). We have had our struggles in our marriage but we have never had a satisfying sex life. We have been to counseling, read books, watched videos, talked about it together, played around with different positions, toys, ect… In the past sex wasn’t that big a deal to me so, although I wished things were different, the whole thing really didn’t bother me too much. We have such a good relationship when it comes to everything else but this has always been the hurdle that we couldn’t jump. I’m worried that maybe we are just friends and not lovers. I feel like I have been in counseling during the better part of our relationship…at what point do you know it’s time to call it quits? I feel that my husband and I are missing the best part of a relationship and that is “showing” each other how you feel about one another. I can’t even kiss him??? When he comes close to me I can feel myself pull away…not matter how hard I try not to

no excuse for a divorce… for better or worse… (passion or no passion)

learn not to pull away… train yourself…

practice makes perfect…

?Resources available to queer people trapped in heterosexual marriages (arranged by homophobic families)?

admin — Mon, 13 Feb 2012 06:33:32 +0000

Where can a person turn when he/she is trapped in an arranged marriage but is not of the heterosexual persuasion? In some instances, the families that orchestrate unions have strong religious, cultural, or even monetary reasons for promoting specific marriages, and they often expect husband and wife to assume traditional gender roles and produce offspring. Some of these marriages were arranged when participants were relatively immature, and culturally divorce remains unacceptable even as members of the union develop stronger self-awareness. The pressure to conform to cultural expectations (and the desire to be "good" sons/daughters and not to bring shame on families) is enormous. Expressions of homosexuality may be ignored or denied by family members, while people trapped in heterosexual marriages might keep their sexual identities secret and live in fear of excommunication from primary social networks. What resources are available to men and women who are gay/lesbian but find themselves trapped in heterosexual marriages? What therapies are recommended to help them overcome a repulsion/discomfort around being sexual with the opposite gender? What about building self-esteem and reducing self-destructive coping strategies (e.g. substance abuse or other forms of escape) in the face of a heterosexist culture that fails to recognize the validity of homosexual identity? I see parallels in the pressures and challenges faced by those in arranged marriage and those faced by married queers in homophobic communities of the Western world (e.g. the film Brokeback Mountain). Please help or point me in the direction of resources.

if you can establish relations with the local gay community you’ll get a lot of answers. see a divorce attorney about ending your sham marriage. as an adult in america you have the right and responsibility to make your own personal decisions.