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Archive for February, 2012

It’s not fair. Straight people can marry right now in any state, while I have to wait for gay marriage to become legal.

Plus, I don’t have the time, money, nor resources to move.

Uh, the government doesn’t have the money. A little tardy to the party, aren’t we??

I’ve been together with my husband for 10yrs. I met him when I was 19yrs old and we have since had 2 great kids (boys;). We have had our struggles in our marriage but we have never had a satisfying sex life. We have been to counseling, read books, watched videos, talked about it together, played around with different positions, toys, ect… In the past sex wasn’t that big a deal to me so, although I wished things were different, the whole thing really didn’t bother me too much. We have such a good relationship when it comes to everything else but this has always been the hurdle that we couldn’t jump. I’m worried that maybe we are just friends and not lovers. I feel like I have been in counseling during the better part of our relationship…at what point do you know it’s time to call it quits? I feel that my husband and I are missing the best part of a relationship and that is “showing” each other how you feel about one another. I can’t even kiss him??? When he comes close to me I can feel myself pull away…not matter how hard I try not to

no excuse for a divorce… for better or worse… (passion or no passion)

learn not to pull away… train yourself…

practice makes perfect…

Where can a person turn when he/she is trapped in an arranged marriage but is not of the heterosexual persuasion? In some instances, the families that orchestrate unions have strong religious, cultural, or even monetary reasons for promoting specific marriages, and they often expect husband and wife to assume traditional gender roles and produce offspring. Some of these marriages were arranged when participants were relatively immature, and culturally divorce remains unacceptable even as members of the union develop stronger self-awareness. The pressure to conform to cultural expectations (and the desire to be "good" sons/daughters and not to bring shame on families) is enormous. Expressions of homosexuality may be ignored or denied by family members, while people trapped in heterosexual marriages might keep their sexual identities secret and live in fear of excommunication from primary social networks. What resources are available to men and women who are gay/lesbian but find themselves trapped in heterosexual marriages? What therapies are recommended to help them overcome a repulsion/discomfort around being sexual with the opposite gender? What about building self-esteem and reducing self-destructive coping strategies (e.g. substance abuse or other forms of escape) in the face of a heterosexist culture that fails to recognize the validity of homosexual identity? I see parallels in the pressures and challenges faced by those in arranged marriage and those faced by married queers in homophobic communities of the Western world (e.g. the film Brokeback Mountain). Please help or point me in the direction of resources.

if you can establish relations with the local gay community you’ll get a lot of answers. see a divorce attorney about ending your sham marriage. as an adult in america you have the right and responsibility to make your own personal decisions.

I been going to marriage counseling with my husband and he said he has a problem with knowing/learning how to be more sensitive. Any good books out there? Maybe something that has some exercises for him to try?

*How to Make Your Man More Sensitive by Diane Glynn and Dick O’Connor

I am joining a singles group at a church (in mid 20s and new to town). I am hoping to find a gf in doing this in addition to worshipping the lord. What I am wondering is what would Christian dating look like as far as process/expectations/rules? I am already waiting until marriage for sex but what about other aspects? I’ve never dated a Christian girl

One thing I can tell you from experience is that if you really want to wait until you are married (this IS the right thing to do) then you must talk to the girl you date and set boundaries. It is one thing to say you will wait until marriage before sex but if you are okay with doing anything short of intercourse then you will quickly end up breaking your own rule. It is good to have a chaperone around. Don’t be alone together anyplace that other people can’t see you, etc.
Also, as a Christian, you need to be aware of what dating is supposed to be about which is to find the right girl for marriage. Don’t go out with a girl for a long time because it has become a "habit". You are doing this to find a wife, so you need to always be asking yourself "Is this a girl who I can see myself being married to for the rest of my life?" and "Does this girl share the same values that are important to me and important to marriage?" If you think the answer to either of these questions is no, then you have to end the relationship quickly.

Some of these "couples" are having upwards of 25 children, in a time when resources are more limited than ever.

At the same time, there are same-sex couples who want to adopt and thousands of parent-less children who would like to be adopted but age-out of the system.

So why is one ok and not the other?

Furthermore, why did the Mormon church spearhead a ban on same-sex marriage (Prop but kept quiet about polygamy?

Because they rather waste money on paying for the sluts who cant keep their legs shut than giving rights to couples who only want to be together.

Their set values and ideals are something out of the dark ages.

DON’T DO IT! Marriage is a religious ceremony. Muslims have very strict religious beliefs. Don’t do this unless you are willing to convert unconditionally.

I did a presentation on gay marriage and i used mainly wikapedia and about gay marriage site. We have to write a paper on it and i don’t want to say i used wikipedia. What resources should i say i used?

Well, it’s definitely NOT Wikipedia! Totally unacceptable.
Try sites with .gov or .edu in the ending.
Go to the library and look up some books and magazines.

Heey ! if you love your man dont worry about it. Im a sikh, planning on marrying a muslim. Well just make a good impression on the inlaws, show ur intact with ur culture and theres, and you know how to do stuff such as making food and what not. There are obstacles in all marriages, but you jus gotta make it worrk